Why can't I orgasm?

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Shamyra Howard, a licensed clinical social worker and sex therapist in Baton Rouge, Louisiana, recalls being very surprised by something one female client told her during a session. 'She was talking about having sex with her partner and I asked, 'Did you orgasm?' Her response was, 'well, no. Women can't do that during sex, right?' I explained that women can and do climax from penile-vaginal penetration, but some are not able to without adding direct clitoral stimulation.'

Too little attention is paid for women's pleasure in sex education, says New York City sex therapist Cyndi Darnell—instead, the emphasis is all on women's bodies in the context of procreation. 'In the vast majority of sex acts, procreating isn't the motivator—people have sex for all kinds of reasons! But for many women, exploring pleasure remains a taboo, so it remains an obligation rather than a pursuit of enjoyment. Until women experience themselves as sexual beings—whose role is not solely to procreate or perform for their partners—women's sexuality will continue to be viewed as mysterious and unreliable, when in fact, it's perfectly normal.' Here are some more things sex therapists wish you knew.






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